Archive | December 2016

Here’s a Wonderful Compilation of Two Fine Communicators Talking About God, Climate, and Science

Carl Sagan and Neil deGrasse Tyson have said quite a bit in their interviews about God, climate change, and the wonder of science. Not that it’s a contest, but in this video, you get to see

those comments one after another. (Only one can win. Choose wisely.)

SaganTheMasterIf any parts stand out, please leave the timestamp/summary in the comments!

(via ScienceNET)

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Science-Themed Christmas Carols for the Whole Family

Finally! It’s the science-themed Christmas songs you’ve been waiting for. Now go memorize them and go caroling. Your neighbors will love it.

BlackHoleyNightThe death-by-black-hole song really brings out the holiday spirit.

(via AsapSCIENCE)

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Quantum Is Calling — Sean Carroll

Hollywood celebrities are, in many important ways, different from the rest of us. But we are united by one crucial similarity: we are all fascinated by quantum mechanics. This was demonstrated to great effect last year, when Paul Rudd and some of his friends starred with Stephen Hawking in the video Quantum Chess, a very…

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Indian Citizens Have Been Arrested and Assaulted for Not Complying With New National Anthem Law

Source: Indian Citizens Have Been Arrested and Assaulted for Not Complying With New National Anthem Law

India’s Supreme Court ruled last month that all movie theaters had to play the National Anthem at the start of every screening, and all citizens were required to stand up for it. As if forced patriotism would make everyone love their country more…

They’re not messing around either. Now that the law’s in effect, people are getting arrested and assaulted for not complying:

Twelve people were arrested on Monday evening at a cinema in India, after they remained seated while the national anthem played.

The cinemagoers, who were attending an international film festival in the city of Trivandrum in Kerala, were later freed but they face charges of “failure to obey an order issued by a public servant, thereby causing obstruction or annoyance to others”.

And at a cinema in Chennai on Sunday, eight people who did not stand for the anthem were assaulted and abused, police said. The eight were later charged with showing disrespect to the anthem.

It’s a bizarre way to instill love of country, by making everyone participate in a mandatory ritual during an otherwise enjoyable and popular pastime. What message does it send to the rest of the world when Indian people have to be forced to say the anthem or else they won’t do it? It also stifles legitimate resistance to the idea. Anyone trying to be the Indian Colin Kaepernick will be swiftly punished. (To make matters worse, the law requires all doors to stay shut during the anthem, in order to prevent anyone from walking out. Only last week was an exemption offered for disabled people physically unable to stand up.)

Hindustan Times columnist Gopalkrishna Gandhi is right to say that forcing people to sing the anthem is the wrong way to get them to love the anthem:

The national anthem is not a traffic signal that has to be respected. It is not a tax that requires compliance. It is not a test that has to be submitted to. It is the poetic equivalent of collective pride, the lyrical expression of a nation’s resolve to advance from ancient primitivisms and medieval bigotries to a future in dignity and justice. If songs are sung because one wants to sing them, heard because one wants to hear them and not under orders, anthems are sung or played when the occasion and the moment for it is right, when the sound of it saturates one’s sense of belonging to the greatness of India, and the greatness of India belonging to oneself.

You can’t show pride in your country when it’s no longer a choice.

Those of us who hold unpopular beliefs — and have fought a lot of battles for our right to peacefully dissent — should recognize why India’s law here makes no sense. Just like the phrase “I love you” means absolutely nothing if you’re saying it under duress, this law is designed to backfire. The National Anthem will come to represent an authoritarian regime instead of the largest democracy in the world.

Somewhere, I’m sure, Donald Trump is trying to figure out how to implement this law in the U.S.

(Image via Shutterstock. Thanks to Scott for the link)

 

Openly Secular | Being Openly Secular During the Holidays

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This guide is intended for secular people who are having questions or problems balancing their secular life with their non-secular families or traditions. This also includes a list of secular holidays and celebrations during each season.

Click here to download this guide in PDF format.

Tis The Season

Holidays are a time of joy and celebration, but for people with secular beliefs, they can be a particularly awkward time of year. As an important part of social life, they reinforce communal bonds, allow traditions to be upheld and reinvented, and remind us of what’s important in life. The rituals people engage in, such as exchanging a gift on Christmas Eve, or helping to prepare the Passover meal, sustain and strengthen the deep emotional bonds between our loved ones. Regardless of your ethnic heritage and cultural background, holidays are a source of meaning that reminds us who we are and where we come from. Therein lies a dilemma for those who don’t adhere to a faith tradition. All around us are celebrations in the making – centered around beliefs that we don’t share. What’s a nonbeliever to do? Many of us struggle with how to react to and participate in holiday celebrations.

Holiday stress and anxiety are largely due to:

  • Forced participation in religious rituals
  • Fear that sharing secular beliefs will upset others
  • Worry that negative reactions from others will
  • elicit painful emotions in themselves

The purpose of this booklet is to help you approach the holidays from a secular perspective. Instead of hiding your secular beliefs, we’ve provided information on how to reconcile conflicting feelings about the holidays, including tips for talking about nonbelief during the holidays.

Is Every Day an Atheist Holiday?

Penn Jillette famously claims that every day is an atheist holiday. The word “holiday” means “holy day”. The word “holy” is typically tied to religion, but can also refer to the sacred. A “holy day” is one worthy of devotion. This is why holidays are regarded as times set aside for celebration.

How is every day an atheist holiday? Depending on your particular secular worldview, you likely don’t believe in an afterlife. For most of us, life is sacred because our time here is limited and there are no second chances. Each day can be seen as a “holy day” because it brings a new opportunity to celebrate life with joy, express your love to friends and family, and enact values that can make the world a better place.

Managing Holiday Stress

The holidays can be stressful for everyone to some extent. For those who actively participate in holiday celebrations, shopping preparations and family events can be overwhelming. Many people feel out-of-sync with the hustle and bustle of the season. Those who do not celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah may feel excluded or imposed upon.

A person who has recently suffered a loss, trauma, or illness may find it difficult to carry on the usual traditions. Even the most well-intentioned reunions can induce tensions, fights, and miscommunications. Whatever your situation, there are many proactive choices you can make to deal with holiday stress and blues. Here are some strategies:

Acknowledge Intense Feelings

Give yourself permission to feel depressed, angry, sad or lonely. Cope with these feelings through talking, exercising, and writing. Avoid situations that stress or upset you.
If you feel obligated to attend a gathering where you feel uncomfortable, plan to stay a short time. While those around you may be overindulging in food or drink, you can make conscious choices about whether or how much to consume.

Get Support!

Try not to isolate yourself completely. To avoid loneliness, plan to be with friends or volunteer in your community to help those less fortunate than yourself. If you’re far from your loved ones, use the phone. Start traditions of your own that feel comfortable to you.

Don’t Overlook Your Own Needs

Have fun. Expose yourself to humor. Give at a level that feels comfortable to you (in terms of time, money and energy). Prioritize your time; don’t overwhelm yourself with too much to do. Even though this is a time of “giving to others,” give yourself plenty of self-care and attention, including rest and quiet time.

Fidelity vs. Faith, or Nonbelievers at the Holidays

Some atheists just don’t do Christmas. People, after all, vary in their tastes. For some, it just isn’t their thing. Maybe they were Christian once and now feel weird about the holiday. Maybe they have family-induced issues that turn them off from the holiday. Fact is, though, that most atheists and other nonbelievers continue to celebrate the holiday, often with great gusto. And some Christians choose to get mad, because after all Jesus is the Reason for the Season, and the secularization of Christmas has led to consumerism and selfishness and gay marriage and who knows what other horrors.

Jesus isn’t the Reason for the Season, and never was. As we nonbelievers like to point out, over and over, our words falling on largely deaf ears, Christmas is way older than the particular body of myths that adhered to the Man from Judea. To rework a line from Bono, Christians stole Christmas from the pagans, and we’re stealing it back.

Comte-Sponville makes, in The Little Book of Atheist Spirituality, a distinction between Faith and Fidelity. Faith is a blind, unreasoned acceptance of something as being true. Fidelity is a adherence to a tradition or set of traditions – think of it as membership in a culture. You agree to certain principles, values, you name it. You have fidelity towards them. It isn’t faith because adherence to them can be a reasoned thing.

For many people, they hear “atheist” and they don’t just hear a rejection of faith, they hear a rejection of fidelity to the culture as a whole. The two are conflated, and in most cultures, have long been so in popular thinking. To question God was to question the King. Heck, in ancient cultures they often made it more direct, and made the King a god! But faith and fidelity don’t have to go hand in hand. Fidelity can exist without faith and vise versa.

Why do so many atheists celebrate Christmas with such gusto and cheer? Or for that matter, celebrate other holidays like Halloween or Thanksgiving in the United States? Because we may not have faith, but we do have fidelity. We like our culture. We grew up in it, we’re attached to it. Celebrating Christmas is one of the ways that we celebrate that fact. Christmas is part of who we are – the carols, the food, the pretty lights and the Christmas trees. So we celebrate and have fun. We may have thrown out the baby Jesus (except for the carols, many of us love those), but we haven’t thrown out the bath water.

To Celebrate or Not To Celebrate?

Family expectations to engage in religious practices can cause a great deal of anxiety. Straying from tradition may seem difficult, especially when family expectations are high.

Regardless of religious or secular beliefs, for most people the holidays involve some understanding that we should be celebrating something very special.

Traditions are an important part of the human experience. Perhaps that’s why so many “nones” keep to their traditions when the holidays come around. Of the 20% of people who are religiously unaffiliated:

Amplifying the holiday’s cultural elements will allow you to focus on meaning without affirming religious beliefs. For example, if you’re asked to pray and don’t feel comfortable declining, give thanks from your heart with your own secular interpretation, like this grace by humanist writer Nicolas Walter.

A Secular Grace
For what we are about to receive let us be truly thankful
…to those who planted the crops
…to those who cultivated the fields
…to those who gathered the harvest.
For what we are about to receive
let us be truly thankful
to those who prepared it, and those who served it.
In this festivity let us remember too
those who have no festivity
those who cannot share this plenty
those whose lives are more affected than our own
by war, oppression, and exploitation
those who are hungry, sick and cold
In sharing this meal
let us be truly thankful
for the good things we have
for the warm hospitality
and for this good company

Coping with Religious Family over the Holidays

At this time of year it’s hard to avoid reconciling religious differences you have with your family. Holiday times can be very uncomfortable if you are a “reclaimer” (reclaiming your life after being religious) from a religious household where other family members are still devout. Here are a few guidelines that might be helpful.

Keep a journal. This can help you sort through jumbled thoughts and emotions, stay on track with how you are trying to handle things, take care of yourself, and learn.

Plan ahead. It helps a great deal to approach the holidays with a high level of consciousness. What do you expect it might be like? What experiences have you had so far with your family? Sometimes reclaimers simply avoid going home in order to avoid conflict. At times this is the only healthy course of action.

Decide how open you will be. Holiday time puts pressure on your relationships, and could raise the question of how much you want to share.

Opening Up at the Holidays

If you decide to open up during a holiday visit, remember that the holidays can be very stressful. Here are a few tips for opening up:

  • Choose a supportive person to open up to
  • Take extra caution with deciding on the timing
  • Give family/friends some time to process your news
  • Have resources for family members to read so that they can see how others have worked through this issue
More information and resources aimed at specific audiences are available at: openlysecular.org/toolkits

Planning Ahead

It’s important to remember that being secular is nothing to feel ashamed of, nor are you responsible for other people’s feelings about it. Although some secular people may choose not to attend family holiday functions, most of us want to spend holidays with loved ones, ideally without discord due to our secular beliefs. Here are four tips to prepare for yourself for the festivities.

Set Realistic Expectations. If you think about your family’s patterns of behavior, you can probably predict how your visit will go. Setting realistic expectations means that you think about what your ideal visit would look like, and then compare that idea to the likely reality, based on previous experiences. You can alter your own behavior but remember that you can’t control others’ behavior.

Develop Boundaries. All healthy relationships have boundaries. The boundaries may be looser for families member, meaning we’re willing to tolerate more from them, but there is a limit. Before your visit, determine what you are willing to tolerate (e.g., going to midnight mass), what is unacceptable (e.g., intentional derogatory remarks about your secular beliefs), and what actions you will take if necessary (e.g., end the visit prematurely).

Communication. Communicate with your family as early and as clearly as possible, especially if you are planning not to attend or cutting your visit short. Be upfront about your concerns, expectations, and boundaries, and ask them about their expectations for you during the visit.

Self Care and Support. Taking care of yourself prior to the visit will help you maintain emotional control during your visit. Work on mindfulness strategies, reach out to support networks, and make plans for secular celebrations either before or after your visit. If possible, make sure you have at least one person who you can call during your visit for support.

During the Visit

Talking about matters of faith and our secular beliefs with loved ones requires sensitivity, honesty and straightforwardness. Below are tips for managing your interactions and conversations during holiday family gatherings.

Additional Suggestions for Navigating the Holidays

  • Bring a friend
  • Take time for yourself
  • Politely disengage
  • Accept difference
  • Practice patience, compassion, and gratitude
  • Know when to end the conversation

Maintain your values. Regardless of what is happening, do what you want to do because that is what you have decided. Reclaim your holiday. Remember why you decided to make the visit. Do what brings you and others joy and meaning.

Find common ground. Instead of focusing on your ideological differences, amplify the areas of commonality. For example, if you and your dad like football, spend time watching and talking about the game on Thanksgiving. If you and your mom usually do the cooking, start compiling recipes to try out and share before your visit.

Embrace the true meaning of the holidays. The holidays are great opportunities for us to show others that it’s possible to have a deep, meaningful, ethical life without religion. The values embraced by most people during the winter holiday season – peace, joy, the importance of family, charity, and goodwill towards humankind – are enacted all year long by secularists who desire to make the world a better place.

Celebrating the Holidays, Secular Style

People all over the world celebrate in different ways and for different reasons. You don’t have to celebrate the holidays for the same reasons as your religious family members. Living openly actually gives you more personal freedom in choosing what to celebrate and how to do so.

Autumn
9/15: Int’l Day of Democracy
9/19: Talk Like a Pirate Day
9/21: Autumn Equinox
9/21: Int’l Day of Peace
9/23: Banned Book Week
9/30: Int’l Blasphemy Rights Day
October is Freethought Month
10/11: National Coming Out Day
10/12: Freethought Day
10/15: Nietzsche’s Birthday
10/23: Mole Day
11/9: Carl Sagan Day
11/21: Voltaire’s Birthday
11/24: Evolution Day
Spring
3/8: International Women’s Day
3/14: Pi Day
3/16: Freedom of Information Day
3/16-3/22: Sunshine Week
3/21: Spring Equinox
4/1: April Fool’s Day
4/12: Cosmonaut’s Day
4/22: Earth Day
1st Thursday in May:
National Day of Reason
5/25: Geek Pride Day
Winter
12/10: Int’l Human Rights Day
12/21: Winter Solstice
12/23: Festivus
12/23: HumanLight Celebration
12/25: Newtonmas
(Newton’s birthday)
January is New Year Reality Revival
1/16: Religious Freedom Day
1/29: Thomas Paine Day
2/12: Darwin Day
Summer
June is LGBT Pride Month
6/5: World Environment Day
6/6: Atheist Pride Day
6/21: World Humanist Day
6/21: Summer Solstice
7/1: Chevalier de la Barre
7/4: Indivisible Day
7/11: Ingersoll Day

Many people intermix traditional family holidays with newer secular celebrations from which new traditions and rituals arise. In the end, you will have to decide what is right for you.

Additional Resources

Books

Arias, Oscar. The Easter Bunny Isn’t Real…and Neither is Jesus: The Pagan Origins of Easter and the Invention of Jesus. Mental Milk Press. www.mentalmilk.com

Harvie, Robin and Stephanie Meyers. The Atheist’s Guide to Christmas. HarperCollins.

Jillette, Penn. Everyday is an Atheist Holiday. Penguin Group.

Blogs

@HappiestAtheist. “Atheist Holiday Survival Guide.” http://happiestatheist.blogspot.com/2012/12/holidaysurvival-guide.html

Blag Hag. “Atheist Holiday Traditions.” http://www.blaghag.com/2009/12/atheist-holidaytraditions.html

Select Articles

Alternet. “Seven Reasons for Atheists to Celebrate the Holidays.” http://www.alternet.org/story/144685/7_reasons_for_atheists_to_celebrate_the_holidays

American Humanist Association. “HumanLight: A Holiday for Humanists.” http://americanhumanist.org/HNN/details/2011-12-humanlight-a-holiday-for-humanists

American Humanist Association. “How to Celebrate HumanLight.” http://americanhumanist.org/HNN/details/2012-12-how-to-celebrate-humanlight-a-december-holiday-for-h

CNN. Holidays, minus God. http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/atheist.holidays.irpt

NPR. HumanLight: December’s Secular Holiday.” http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=98627236

Slate. “No Reason for the Season: The Joy of Celebrating a Godless Christmas.” http://www.slate.com/articles/life/faithbased/2008/12/no_reason_for_the_season.html